Category Archives: Graveside

So much to live for

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Wednesday 16th September

You really did have so much to live for.

We thought you had beaten this disease, we were told the tumours were shrinking markedly.

We still had so much to do.

We were planning a trip to London to have afternoon tea at the Ritz. Something you had wanted to do, somewhere to dress up in your ‘posh’ black velvet jacket.

We had so many dreams still to fulfil.

To continue our travels far and wide, to find new theme parks, new experiences, to have fun, laugh, and make every day a happy one.

But no, it just was not to be.
For some unknown reason, you gained your Angel wings and left us with such heartbreak.

Marvellous memories, but utterly broken hearts.

Soar high, and smile, lovely boy.
We love you so dearly.
We miss you so much.
Angel son xxxx

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On this day last year

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Tuesday 15th September

It was a year ago today that you began a journey on the most awful rollercoaster. You were eventually to be given a diagnosis of testicular cancer, and the horrendous disease would take your life six months later.

You had complained of a pain ‘down there’: following a visit to the GP, you were referred to the hospital, where you spent almost all of this day at the A and E department in Torbay. An ultrasound scan confirmed a mass in your left testicle, and further appointments were made.

Little did we know then how serious this would turn out to be.

Would we have changed anything?
Would we have done things differently?
What could we have done to improve your chances?

In the back of my mind is always the niggling question of why you didn’t have a CT scan sooner. Following the biopsy, and then the removal of the testicle, we were told all was fine, and you came home with us.

It was not until late November it was discovered that you also had tumours in your brain and lungs. This was after we had almost demanded a scan be carried out, as you were having terrible headaches and vomiting.

Should we have insisted upon the CT scan directly after the orchidectomy?

Hindsight……
If only……
I wish……
What if……
Why……

We miss you more than words can say.
We love you so very, very much.
Sending kisses to Heaven.
Beloved Angel son.
xxxxx

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Month twenty one results

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Monday 14th September

It’s always there, in the background, trying to push forwards, poking at my subconscious, wanting an audience, asking to be heard.
I do try so very hard to not let it rule my thoughts though.
Scanxiety.
The anxious and tedious wait for my CT scan results.

Two weeks ago I had a scan as part of my participation in a clinical trial for the adjuvant treatment of stage three malignant melanoma.
I’m taking part in the Combi-Ad research by GSK, trialing two drugs called trametinib and dabrafenib.

You see, I had a malignant mole on my foot (the Alien Blob), that spread its cancerous cells into my lymphatic system, so I then had to have all the nodes at the top of my leg removed. Not pleasant.

And this evening, and for the next two and a half months, I can breathe a huge sigh of relief.
No Evidence of Disease.
I’m NED.
My trials nurse rang to give me the news this evening.
See you at the end of November for the next round of tests.

I should be relieved.
But I’m thinking of you.
I should feel happy.
But I’m missing you.

Why?
If only?
What if?

I love you so very much.
Sweetheart.
Son.
xxxxx

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My Sunbeam Angel

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Sunday 13th September

“Oh My Darling Angel
My heart loves you.
My soul misses you.
My memory longs
  to be in that same
    space and time
        With You.”

I really would like to be teleported or transported or transferred or transmogrified or whatever it’s called, to be with you.
Wherever you might be.
Right now.
Somewhere in space and time.
Just to be with you.

I miss everything about you.

Yesterday, I was going through the cards that people had sent, when you passed, and the one from our previous, elderly next-door neighbours brought a tear to my eyes:

“We have lovely memories when we lived next door to you.
Frank was a lovely boy, and so is his brother.
We had many chats over the wall.

We know he is a Sunbeam in Heaven.
All of God’s children, when they die, become Sunbeams.
They have a special place in Heaven.”

Sending you kisses to Heaven.

Sleep peacefully, my little Sunbeam Angel xxxx

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A beautiful posy box of flowers from your Auntie

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Six months in Heaven

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Saturday 12th September

It’s six months today since you gained your Angel wings.

And not a day goes by that I haven’t thought of you.

Fly free with the angels.
Love you forever xxxxx

18.1.1985  –  12.3.2015

#TesticularCancer #Checkemlads #RaisingAwareness #ForFranksSake

I put this on Facebook today, to try and raise awareness of this awful disease.

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Your memory lingers

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Friday 11th September

“In our hearts your memory lingers,
Sweetly tender, fond and true,
There is not a day that goes by
That we do not think of you.”

We have dinner tonight with your brother, as it was his day off. We sit by the window, watching the boats bobbing around in the harbour as the rain lashes down onto the pavement. There are still many tourists around, so we were lucky to have the table at the front of the restaurant.

We talk of you fondly, remembering you would order nachos from the menu with a lemonade, or you may have had the Big Kahuna Burger, like your brother ordered, probably followed by a chocolate brownie. We do miss you so very much. Three around the table just does not seem right; four of us is what it should be. Mum, Dad and two boys.

But it is not to be.

You are with us in spirit, for sure.
All around us, forever more.

Miss you.
Love you.
Sweet Angel child xxxx

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When the wind blows

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Thursday 10th September

“Sometimes when the wind blows,
I hear you whisper to me…..

“My spirit is alive.
My soul is free.
My love is as near
as you need it to be.”

I do miss you so much, but have to believe that your spirit is truly alive.

I love you dearly and hope your soul is flying free.

Beloved Angel son xxxx

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Beautiful soul

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Wednesday 9th September

Your sunflowers are outstanding. Taller and taller they grow, their faces forever turning to follow the sun.

Having cut down five more of them this morning, from those growing in the back garden, we took them to you.

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Beautiful sunflowers

They look magnificent.

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Blooming wonderful

Dad has been carefully nurturing them for you.

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A splendid dash of colour

Such amazingly, resplendent colours.

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Flowers, just for you

Wonderful flowers, for a truly beautiful soul.

We talk to you this morning, hoping you can hear us, hoping you can see the vibrant yellow of your sunflowers as you look down from heaven.

Wishing……
If only……
Why…..

Love you to the moon and back.
And all the world.
Love you more.

Our little sunflower Angel.

xxxxx

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Sunflower pollen for the honey bee

Sunflowers again

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Tuesday 8th September

Your sunflowers in the back garden continue to grow skyward, and we will bring you some more of the blooms tomorrow. They stand so very tall, with their smiling faces following the sun.

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One of your tall sunflowers

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Ten feet tall

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Too high to touch

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Up to the clouds

These are the flowers from the seed packet you bought back in March.
Your “Tallest sunflowers in the World”.
And they sure have grown mighty tall and strong, almost twice your height.

I hope you can see them, and smile.
I just wish that you were here.
Thinking of you always.
Missing you so much.
Love you forever.
Sweet Angel.
xxxxx

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Back to school

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Monday 7th September

For quite some time, you had an assisted work placement at a children’s nursery. You loved putting on your ‘uniform’ of a turquoise t-shirt, and walking by yourself to the pre-school in the mornings, to set out the toys, books or play equipment.

You loved being with the group of young children. They were non-threatening, and you enjoyed being in their company. Despite having Asperger Syndrome, you were able to be one of the team, gain your First Aid qualification, along with the rest of the staff, and have a certain amount of responsibility for the youngsters.

Today would probably have been their ‘Back to school day.’

I wonder if they thought of you today?
I wonder if they miss you?

In a card from the school, they had this to say about you:

“As I’m sure you are aware, Frank helped out at the pre-school for a number of years and he really was one of the team.
Frank was always kind and patient with the children, without exception he demonstrated great empathy, particularly with children who were very shy or lacking in confidence.
Many of the children loved nothing more than settling down in the reading corner with Frank reading them a story or three.
We were extremely fond of Frank and we are going to miss him a great deal.”

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You loved your ‘job’ there, and would often talk about your day looking after the children.

I’m sure they do miss you.
You meant something to everyone you met.
You made a big impact on so many people.
We all miss you so very much.

Have fun playing with the Angel children.
Soar high, sweetie pie.
Love you forever.
xxxxx

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